What are the Benefits of Mediation?

Feeling more in control of the future as a result of making their own decisions and setting goals is a typical response from people who mediate.

Salvaging some of the good things in the relationship often results from mediating.

Eases the pain that most couples feel during and after their separation. This is especially true when there are children involved.

Costs are reduced by using mediation as clients share the time and expense of one professional mediator.

Communication skills established during mediation form a basis for cooperation and often help with future interactions.

Changes in the law are frequent. An attorney mediator can share with the parties the law that applies to their situation as well as what the likely resolution would be if they went to court.

Time spent in mediation is always less than the time required for each party to work with separate attorneys and for those attorneys to negotiate with each other. Many of the expensive and time consuming litigation processes are designated to procure information from the other side. In mediation these processes can be eliminated by a rule of full disclosure and cooperation in obtaining necessary information.

Options for solving problems can be offered by the mediator based on her wealth of experience. Drawing on the experience from other situations the mediator can help the parties be as creative as possible in devising options that will work for them.

Honoring the Agreements the parties have made is the norm for people who mediate because they feel that they made the decisions upon which their agreement is based. Studies show that people who make their own agreements follow them much better than people whose decisions are made for them by judges. In the end you must live with the result of your decisions; not the judge, not the attorney and not the mediator. If there are children they will benefit from the fact that you, their parents, have made the decisions that concern them, rather than leaving the decision in the hands of the court.

Setting goals for the future Mediation includes goal setting. What are the short-term and long-term goals of each of the parties? What are their expectations of each other and responsibilities vis a vis each other? Do they have common goals? Agreements the parties come to can be measured against these goals.